The only question I would ask her:
What about you?
Then I would continue:
What was your earliest memory in life and how did it impact you?
What were the most significant memories of the following 2 years.
What was your level of comfort as a child and how did it change?
She understands her impact.
She understands how most react towards her.
She doesn’t understand herself.
Her putting herself out there makes her a useful case study.
If put on the spot, she would likely deny anything to do with confronting her self.