I have recently had a conversation with an rh negative friend making this statement to me:
I think the real underlying issue almost all Rh- have is low self esteem.
was what she said to me. And it made me wonder.
We were talking about why rh negatives seem so lost and why it was so easy for irresponsible people to lure rh negatives into groups where they fill their minds with theories and fear.
It has always been my ambition to educate us and strengthen us, but I have now realized it doesn’t work.
Rh negatives tend to be drawn to stories about how bad we are and how messed up our lives are generally speaking.
Where would this low self-esteem come from?
Could it be rh negatives simply being so sensitive that we fall for intimidation tactics?
And if so: How can this be reversed?
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I may have touched on this before. I am an introvert and very shy to the point of having panic attacks when singled out. I think my mother recognized this at an early age as she made me dance and perform. Many times I would embarrass myself by wetting myself. I would go brain dead during school exams. However, she would not let me fail so I had to force myself to ignore everyone else and concentrate on giving it my best. Over the years I have continued to force myself to do things I deep down did not want to do. I believe as a negative we may attract or be attracted to negative energies therefore have low-esteem. When in groups of negative people as you have mentioned “people who will believe things without question” I tend to get frustrated as I tend to question everything until it is proven or seems more likely than not. I think being loners, negative people feel they have to agree so that others will like them and include them in their circles. However, I am sure there any many other’s like myself who accept that they are different somehow, can accept being somewhat alone or at least always hesitant when joining groups and yet succeed in a “positive” dominated world.
evaluate the scripted harassment programs developed by the Stasi, start with zersetzung. then evaluated cointelpro, and methods to silence dissidents. this is the core, because the very act of having a different paradigm viewpoint is very threatening and has to be silenced, prevented. the ruling paradigms are about greed, fear, money, ripping people off, run by liars, that designed these systems, to benefit themselves. telling the truth isn’t allowed, and that will lead to isolation, alienation, or even assassination.
the automatic knee jerk go -to for the positive species is “you are just wrong” no matter what it is. same goes for policing, “it must be illegal” even though no laws are broken. same goes for banking “you must be low income” because I don’t keep money in a bank because it is a bad investment. I have “bad credit” because I don’t use visa. it has nothing to do with their paradigm. \\
after a few decades of such events encounters, they say it must be “poor self esteem”? I don’t b elieve that, I often don’t participate because it’s a waste of time. Again, the dominant paradigm says you have to be a flaming extrovert, or else there’s something wrong with you. I don’t go to bars for example. There must be something wrong…? People that aren’t desperate to be part of the group, must have “low esteem”? This is an important subject…..I’d like to see what others have to say. Are we asking us, or asking “others”. Kind of like facebook? It’s important what “others” have to say about me, but nobody is asking me directly. That’s why I would never use social media, because it’s stupid, but the interpretation is “low esteem”. \
thank you
I am an Ambivert: (A person who is neither clearly extroverted nor introverted, but has characteristics of each.) and I think it’s preposterous to claim all Rh-negatives have low self esteem or at least lower than everyone that’s Rh-positive.
To the contrary my entire family has been and as well as are… (including all 4 known generations being 85% Rh-d Negatives) very Self Reliant and Self Confident. We are all high achievers for the most part. I’m youngest of 6 boys and 2 girls so I’m not talking about a few either. We are all probably more confident, self reliant and at times even boastful than others claiming to be Rh-negative or Rh-postive. That might be a family genetic thing, but I doubt it’s just that. We are all intelligent, high achievers and very self confident maybe even to a fault. All seem to be multi-talented and tend to be leaders in their field of choice.
Here’s what I believe; it’s easy to be mediocre and go along to get along. Just so you don’t stand out. But few in my family are much interested in not excelling. Family competition is worse for that reason. None of us want to be undone. We’re talking about excelling in whatever we do and sometimes to get there, you have to convince yourself you’re not…. so you keep trying to reach the top. The list is far too long to write out here, but we have we tend to produce excellence in what we achieve and I think that’s what being an Rh-Negative is all about!!!
To Excel at whatever we do and push the boundaries of what a person can achieve. We are creative, self reliant and stand out in a crowd and don’t know of any family of Rh-Positives or really… Rh-Negatives who are any more Self Confident, Empathic, Self Reliant and multitalented and Aware of Others as those in my family! ……the rest are followers… not us Rh-Negatives!
B- here, catholic mother, jewish father. Never have felt low self-esteem, nor has my sister who is a year older. Have always felt different . Never felt as though I fitted in. Maybe this is because of the non-religious upbringing. Maybe not. Am a achiever, self-made and successful, having made my fortune and been blessed to have found a faith which accepts me, without any questions and without any conversion.
Oh, I forgot to mention, I am female.
@A Higgins
Raised a Catholic….. but all it took was one time going into the Confessional Booth after Catechism, etc to change my mind about Catholicism. That after getting plenty of knuckle cracks from Nuns. When they Priest asked me what I’d done wrong or whatever…. at 10 or whatever you are… I couldn’t think of anything. So I made stuff up and he acted like I was really bad and told me to say a bunch Hail Marys, Our Fathers, etc at the Altar. All I said was I lied a few times and didn’t do my homework, which was the only thing true. Never went to confessional ever again. 😀
It would have been nice to not be so heavily indoctrinated into the Catholic Religion. Not that it phased my own self esteem, it just changed my perception of having to have an intermediary instead going directly to God. I also later took lots of classes in Religion in general. Studied Yoga, Buddhism, Hindu, Shintoism, WuLi (a kind of Zen), etc. Even went to a Christian Seminary, Calvary Chapel w/ the whole Maranatha Music, hippy movement, etc.
Like you…. then I just settled into a Christian based religion that didn’t force me to believe only in what I was being taught. That after being religionless for years after being some of everything I got interested in…. or not. It can be tough to find a religion or ‘Way of Life’ that isn’t constantly looking to judge us for some reason. Did the Chanting stuff…. etc and liked some Yoga stuff…. threw everything together, got rid of things that didn’t work for me and realized like life itself…. I’ll always be a CHANGE in Progress. So to just accept myself for who I am at any given moment and live life to it’s fullest! ….and yeah it’s ok to feel different and only YOU really know yourself anyway!
Oh for heaven’s sake! Speak for your self! From childhood, I have always been self confident. Maybe more Nurture than Nature?
I joined this forum, to find out facts about Rh.negatives, as there seemed to be a lot of hoo haw on the subject. Am I Alien, Basque, Neanderthal, Reptile, Human? Of course, I’m human and certainly none of the other.
I am intrigued as to why Rh negs, (I am Rh. neg.A. d c) think that they are so different. Any statistics can be skewed to show anything you want, depending upon who does the stats!
I am who I am, and nothing can change my blood group, I don’t get it. I do NOT think I am special because of my blood group. I have asked dozens of friends, even nurses what their blood group is and they just look at me askance and say they haven’t a clue. And they are absolutely NOT bothered about it.
I guess the only time to worry(or I will worry) is if you need a blood transfusion and even then you can have group O.
I am often making posts if enough feedback and thoughts brought forward to make justify it. My thought is that we have an ambiguous nature. 😉 And that means we can also go to extreme. We can be highly confident in the right environment and with the right upbringing. But when things go wrong, they go really wrong and show. More power to you being self-confident. There are plenty of rh negatives out there who have told me in private how they feel, so I figure this one is for them.
Was always painfully shy as a child and even as an adult. I was the first child and the eldest of three younger brothers. Sounds silly now but we would hide behind the couch and not come out whenever anybody came to the house. I feel that insecurity and shyness caused me to miss many opportunities in life.
I am A- & I believe it is actually something totally different from low self-esteem. What I have experience is a total life of high self-esteem, my half sister stated it best with “my brother isn’t conceded, he is convinced”. Am I filthy rich in money & fame, no. Mostly because I don’t put a high importance on money or fame. Yes, this world has allow money to be something that is needed in everyday life, specially in the western countries with modern cities. Fame is valued by many, mostly to only gain more money but wanting fame is an ugly desire for people to have. It provides no true important quality of anything.
As I see the world (meaning the people of the world) it is ALL screwed up due to how the majority are totally brainwashed by the few. The few keep the masses at each other’s throats for one major reason, if the masses all got together, we could totally clean this world from the evil few who control everything, just in numbers alone BUT the masses always have traitors within their ranks.
I get depressed but mostly because the task of making the world better is almost impossible. What I have resolved to is trying to help people see the truth in one person at a time. Sadly the masses are so strongly brainwashed even this seems like a total waste of time.
Positive self-esteem gets kicked around a lot, even the totally convenienced can get knocked down & get pulled into bad places. They have to shake it off and remember one important thing, take care of yourself FIRST and as you live life, others will learn bits and pieces from watching you be successful. Even if you fail many times, shake it off each time and get back out there to make it finally happen for you. Even your failings can help others, if they see you getting back up and trying again and again and again.
Most people are sheepeople, it is extremely hard to get them to leave their flocks. Best you can hope for is opening an eye or two, to different ideas in ways to look at things. So don’t stay depressed, shack it off and keep moving on for as long as you can. Then when the next life comes, hopefully you will still be Rh – and can continue the fight to help this world become better.
“The few keep the masses at each other’s throats for one major reason, if the masses all got together, we could totally clean this world from the evil few who control everything”
This may be a very popular thing to hear that there are these few evil people who “make us all evil”, but the truth of the matter is that long before civilization, people were always at each others’ throats. This is an Utopia that will never sustain itself. I respect people who show new solutions. Not highlight old problems.
@GailWhitfield Hello I could say I was shy, but in the end that’s become my way of getting others to be attracted to me. Why? Because as an Rh-Negative…. we naturally tend to STAND OUT and do things unusual or different than most. I was the guy who was seen as shy because I was never aggressive, until I got in front of a camera or people. Which developed into a ploy to have others….. and I’m talking mainly the opposite sex now…. see me and come to me first before I’d go meet them. I used my attractants to attract others, like bees to honey. But…. that may have been wrong because I did get the more aggressive type and sometimes be sorry for it later!
Always just a couple minutes late to classes….. so I could make the big entrance and I’d prepare to make it GRAND. It got me in trouble with teachers and adults…. but that was part of the reason I stood out from the crowd as much as being Rh-Negative. That carried on through college and into the Hollywood Acting Scene. I’d make my entrance and teachers would always want to test me back in High School or College in an effort to make a fool of me. Ace…. ing tests was a habit I enjoyed. I was always able to pass a test and get better scores than everyone else w/o doing any work. Getting parts? No problem… I’d play like I couldn’t do something to then come like gang busters and blow everyone away, in cold calls or auditions. Which I hoped for some odd reason to always wiggle out of of taking parts. My problem partly then was probably being a Rambunctious Aries A-Negative with too much empathetic qualities. Plus you couldn’t dare me to do anything I wouldn’t do, always up for a challenge. I was an Extrovert… but learned to play the shy Role to a T!!! ……I could also be just as sensitive and shy…. and introverted as others. When I saw it would benefit someone else and that’s just because I just knew I could do things others couldn’t. By being/doing less than what I was really capable of!
If I was really shy…. it was for a purpose and observational purpose of not wanting to out do some one I saw as being picked on or to be empathetic to what I perceived. In that way my whole object was to be the Clown and another Rh-Negative in show business was the same way. Jerry Lewis was Brilliant…. but he use his clown act to help raise others above himself. But…. of course his own ego could get the best of him too. But…. all and all…. through years of training and studying nearly anything that interested me…. which was EVERYTHING….. I tried always to downplay my own talents and expertise if I felt I was threatening to anyone else. If anything….. that’s what would hold me back and the fact is… I knew I was Good and could really make it and so I never tried that hard. I didn’t need the money or work and I was through it all more afraid of Success than I was of Failure!
btw….. this is a profile pic is of my son about 28 yrs ago at one yo. I was I was trying to show is how Rh-Negative Eyes look even when young. He’s Rh-Negative AB and I’m A-negative to his mother’s B-. He still has Blue Eyes but in person if you look close he has the hazel halo around the Iris. Mine are Hazel and change with moods or clothing/surroundings. I also have specks of color or you could say flaws in them as does he as well. I think you might be more like my son. Not nearly as flamboyant as me he’s definitely more empathetic. But I am an Ambivert he’s more Introvert, but still stands out in every crowd and it’s just the sense of something that seems to emanate from Rh-negatives! …..and you may have it and just not be aware of it!
Not sure that President Trump (O-) has low self-esteem. Self-esteem, the belief in one’s innate right to respect, is according the the vast amount of research that has gone unreported but I was required to read for my Masters in Psychology, nothing more than ego. It is in fact, SELF-EFFICACY, the belief in one’s ability to reach goals, aka EARNED RESPECT, that is beneficial.
Ok… I am A Neg…… I am also a long time Psych Nurse….
(My immediate family… both parents and 2 brothers and 2 sisters are either O Neg. Or A Neg…)
It would be interesting to see what how prevalent the Bipolar Dx is within the Negative blood types..
As this would answer …why there are such extremes in Depression/self esteem issues… then… the Mania part of Bipolar that can lend to inflated self esteem, grandiosity, narcissism, and rapid mood swings…
I do sincerely believe that most Negatives ‘know’ that they carry some latent kind of responsibility to people in general… Whether that is by way of helping others or society in some way or … by being just a decent person to others…
Yes, I too have suffered from poor self esteem and depression…. and yes they are now lots of medical studies around the planet that show genetic markers for these things… as well as things like Bipolar…
The self esteem seems to come from the knowing or feeling like you dont quite fit in… anywhere…
It doesnt often make sense… but Yes… we can Make Ourselves fit in… if we have to… The question is often more…. ‘Do we choose to fit in…?’ OR … ‘Do we expect more from ourselves… than we expect from others?’ I used to joke about it…. by saying…, ” Sometimes it’s Good to be the Black Sheep….. Because No Matter What…. you will Always stand out in a crowd.” BUT….. there is a loneliness in that.
Because…. finding others that understand us or … are that way too…. is difficult at best….
If negatives are only 15 percent of the planet… then we DO have something that’s different… Science and the field of Genetics.. is only just now scratching the surface of what that mIght mean… And the ‘hows’ and ‘ whys’ of what genetic markers flip ON or OFF is even further down the road….
It doesnt really matter where we came from… or how we got here…. The fact remains… We Are Here… and Logic dictates that no matter what… there must be a reason… So whether we choose to be the Flute, the Tuba, or the Harp…. without any One of us… this Giant Big Symphony of Life cannot sound as beautiful without US…..